Emotional intelligence defines our ability to get in touch with both our and other’s emotions and express and manage them in a healthy way. Most of our relationships are bound to go south at some point. Whether we talk about our family, friends or significant ones, some relationships are made to end. The guilt of it is almost always divided: things were said, stuff happened, now it’s high time to let go and move on.
But when you’re not really in touch with your emotional intelligence, it can negatively impact your personal and professional life. You will, for the most part of the time, feel hopeless, angry, confused and you won’t be able to be productive in achieving your goals. Emotional intelligence has a lot to do with self-awareness, self-improvement and empathy. Acknowledge that you are only human. And that you are trying every day. Some people have it better, while others have it worse. It shouldn’t deter you from your track and your goals. Get in touch with your inner self and follow your gut instincts. They are usually right. And when you feel that something is either right or wrong, act in accordance.
Observe how you feel. Look inside. Look outside. Observe your emotional reactions to certain situations or triggers. They usually tell you if you’re at peace or in conflict with yourself. Notice how you’re feeling (and whether you’re highly influenced by past experiences) so that you act appropriately. Don’t let past experiences influence your present. What’s gone is gone. Water under the bridge. You may have made mistakes, but they don’t define you. You have the possibility to start over.
Take responsibility. For your feelings and behaviors. For how you talk to other. Or to yourself. They are a direct result of what you have cooking on the inside. No one else can be responsible for yourself. You are the only one with the ability to control how you feel and how you behave. And keep in mind that any habit that you may develop, will become your character. Express your feelings positively and don’t put others down just for fun. Feelings matter. People matter. YOU matter.
Practice empathy. With both yourself and others. Understand why others behave the way they do. Why you behave the way you do. How different situations draw up different responses from you. How you adapt and change your behavior depending on the context. Understand that everyone has their reasons why they are doing something. As do you. By trying to be more empathetic you will become more aware of the answers that you were seeking.
Emotional intelligence is a lifetime practice. It doesn’t have a starting and an ending point. You’ll just have to practice self-awareness, responsibility and empathy, alongside a positive mindset and you will have your life change in front of your eyes. By being more grateful for everything you’ve achieved and have so far, you will become determined to work more and build new things.